do you have access to a shooting instructor that can see and critique how you shoot. I have a Keltec P3AT (.380auto); I know others that also own and shoot that weapon. One handed, two handed, off hand, etc: I have not known one of them to lose control of the weapon or have their hands hurt after firing less than 100 rounds. Something is happening that isn't normal, and I think someone needs to see what your doing to help you figure it out.
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