I guess I'm the only one now....

[jmac_52]

As some members here may remember, my wife and her family had pretty much parted ways since the spring of 2006 when all hell broke loose between her and her mother. Well, since that time many things have happened to change the cold darkness that persisted there. And...it was all due to the maniacal rantings of my MIL and her oldest daughter.

But, they say time heals all wounds. Yeah....right. Anyhow, the wife has reconciled with her mother...which I was kind of glad of, since she is almost 80 now...and needing her family near her. But, in the past months, my wife's last remaining aunt was stricken with lung cancer, which ended up taking her life last Wednesday.

The funeral was last Friday...with so many family members and friends attending. The thing that bothered me most was the tension that still existed between my wife and her older sister. But, to my surprise, they actually talked to each other and may even resume their relationship.

My feelings, however, toward the fat tramp, have not changed. She said and did some very rotten things to me and my family, which I will never forget. Now, here's the rub...the wife says they want to throw a big party for her mother's birthday in Febraury. I told her to go and have a good time. She asked if I was going...so I gave her the look and said.."Only if there's snow flying in Hell!"

Maybe I'm at fault....but I can't see giving forgiveness to this woman. She's as evil as a pit viper, and in my opinion has lost any respect I ever had for her.

Rant over....thanks for listening.

[4goods]

What's more important? Your wife (as well as your marriage) or your mother in law gaining the knowledge that she has in fact gotten under your skin by you not showing up?

Just thinking out loud.....

[jmac_52]

What's more important? Your wife (as well as your marriage) or your mother in law gaining the knowledge that she has in fact gotten under your skin by you not showing up?

Just thinking out loud.....

Uhhh....the problem is the sister....she's the one who blew everything out of proportion. And, yes, maybe I'm being a little too intense with my feelngs. But, once I give in, I'm letting that piece of crap think that she can get away with treating anyone like a turd on the groind that she can kick around, walk on...yada, yada. She has done this all her life, and I refuse to let it continue with me as her target.

I am glad that the wife has rejoined her family, but I don't know if I'm ready to make such a leap yet....maybe in another 10 years...when I'm not as sharp with my memory.

[4goods]

Uhhh....the problem is the sister....she's the one who blew everything out of proportion. And, yes, maybe I'm being a little too intense with my feelngs. But, once I give in, I'm letting that piece of crap think that she can get away with treating anyone like a turd on the groind that she can kick around, walk on...yada, yada. She has done this all her life, and I refuse to let it continue with me as her target.

I am glad that the wife has rejoined her family, but I don't know if I'm ready to make such a leap yet....maybe in another 10 years...when I'm not as sharp with my memory.

My bad, sorry bout that. If you did go, you certainly wouldn't have to acknowledge the SIL. Your silence in respect to her would speak volumes of your thoughts with regards to her actions. Even if she makes an effort ......

I'm glad to hear that your wife is making amends as well.

[jmac_52]

My bad, sorry bout that. If you did go, you certainly don't have to acknowledge the SIL. Your silence in respect to her would speak volumes of your thoughts with regards to her actions. Even if she makes an effort ......

I'm glad to hear that your wife is making amends as well.

Funny you should say that....that's exactly what I did at the funeral. I did not acknowledge her presence...nor did I reply or react to her addressing me. I acted like she was not only invisible...but completely non-existent to me. She acted like nothing had ever happened....until she got no response from me. I figured if I had nothing good to say ......it would be best to say absolutely nothing.

[serenityBlue]

You don't have to forgive the sister to support your wife, but you know that already