So...my son got pulled over the other night (this is long)

[ruby0711]

Now, reading this board has taught me a lot about the police, a lot of prior misconceptions have been broken just by my reading here.

Most of all, this board has taught me that you all are...human.

I am going to let you know how this has crossed into the 'real' world.

My son (17), was a passenger in a car full of teens the other night. (around 9pm) He was on his way to his girlfriends house when the driver (not my son), rolled through a stop sign.

The area they were in, a very; upper middle-class neighborhood where a lot of break in's have occured. (there has been pretty much a 3 town crime spree for a while...)

So, the police have been spending a lot of time there.

They got pulled over.

Driver got real nervous, it was their first time they had ever had any type of police involvement. On top of the fact that there was beer in the trunk. :mad: :mad: :mad: (I'll get back to that...)

The officer, saw that the driver was nervous, as well as the fact that one of the people they have been looking for ...is around the age of the kids in the car.

They got searched. (Beer found.)

Now, they were right in front of my son's girlfriends house when the girlfriends dad drives by, my son as well as the other passengers in the car had their hands on the hood of one of 3 police cruisers..all the while, the officers were pouring out the beer. (when my son told me the story...I laughed my butt off..I had to, I certainly CAN NOT condone the beer, not in any way...but; you have to see the humor)

Now, ofcourse my son was searched, the police found gum and Air-Heads in his pocket...they let him go....:p

The driver got a warning...or 2; everyone else was let go.

When my son got home around 11 pm, he told me the entire story...including the part about the beer. (The part about the beer drastically changed the next evenings prom plans....the prom party was at MY house, instead of the original plans that were in the making :cool:.....)

I have to say, my son as always been honest with me, even though I sometimes do not like what I hear...I would rather have him tell me the truth than lie to me about it. It is the best I can ask for with a teen. While I know my son is not perfect, he has not even so much as gotten a detention in high school..yet (almost a senior) and the teachers ALWAYS compliment me on how cordial and friendly he is to adults...yes, I am proud of that.

Anyways...

This is what gets me.
The calls started pouring in from the other parents. They were very indignant; 'HOW DARE YOU SEARCH MYkid. They complained to the Supervisors...ect, well atleast they told me they did. I mean, these parents were 'hot'....really...really pissed off. (strange thing, not one of them knew about the beer, I was the only parent who knew about that...go figure...)

So I called the Sgt., had a nice conversation with him, and it was clear that he was waiting for the parental symptoms of; 'NOTMYKIDITIS' to come our of my mouth.

I let him know that I only wanted to know if my kid was respectfull, and I wanted to match the boy's story to the officers. I am the type of parent who wants to know if her kid is in trouble...if I know he is doing something wrong, than I can do something about it...or atleast try.

He was suprised to learn that I knew about the beer...go figure.

He called my attitude refreshing, and I thanked him for being pro-active. The break-in's, as well as drug trafficing has become out of control in my neighborhood as well. Police presence is the only way to try and control that.

So,

Thanks for being out there....even though you searched my kid.....;):p:D

[phantasm]

Thank you for being one of the parents that has a kid that that has a police interaction, and happened to raise their kid right.

[cobravenom1]

If every parent (or even a small amount) were like you, I would let more of my teenager contacts pass with a verbal. Around where I work, parents will be on the phone beefing me 30min after the contact. Saves my butt when I pull out a cite for "whatever" the contact was for.:D

[ruby0711]

If every parent (or even a small amount) were like you, I would let more of my teenager contacts pass with a verbal. Around where I work, parents will be on the phone beefing me 30min after the contact. Saves my butt when I pull out a cite for "whatever" the contact was for.:D

LOL...funny thing is, the Sgt. that I spoke with did not bring up the beer part of the story, he refered to the contents of the trunk as...'other things', I pointed out the beer. I believe that he was suprised that my son told me. He then made sure that I knew they were not drinking and driving, and felt that they were good kids.



It is very difficult to know what your older teens are doing at all times; but I'll be damned if I have to bury him, or any of his friends because of drinking and driving...that was\is my biggest concern, as well as my son being respectfull.

I am happy to report, that this experience scared the crap out of him, and he holds no grudge against the police.

Scare tactics are a good thing.

[Aussie George]

I caught three kids that broke into an unlocked truck and stole a half packet of smokes. They were aged 11- 13 !!!

Due to their age and the owner of said smokes not wanting any action, I took them home to their parents. Upon arival at the first child's house, it was apparent that no police action was necessary. I sort of felt sorry for the lad. He was the polite one in the group and was honest and respectful throughout. I think the smack marks on his butt might have gone by now but I am not sure. (This was about 5 years ago!!!)

The other two lads (brothers) had smart mouths and needed a major attitude adjustment. I was quite abrupt with them but never swore, thretaened, etc.

When I got them home, mother met us and I explained to her that I was cutting them slack this time but next time they would not be so lucky. I said to the mother, "This one needs a major attitude adjustment" and pointed to the little turd 11 year old.

The next day my SGT called me in to discuss it as the father (who was not even home) had rung up to complain about the way I spoke to his kids.

I told my SGT that he could explain to the father that if he didn't like the way I was raising his children then maybe he should do it himself and that next time there would be no doubt as to what was said or not, as the next time the conversation would be taking place in a police station interview room, right before I charge his precious little darling.

I mean, it was a Tuesday night (school night), on the other side of town, the kids were from a reasonable fmaily (not drug addict slum dwellers - should have known better), and Dad was out of town at the darts club drinking with his mates, while junior and junior II were across town stealing from trucks....and he was angry with me!!! :mad: :mad:


RUBY, like already mentioned, thank you for being a good parent and being a (positive) part of your child's life, unlike so many.

[Darin]

You are a good parent Ruby. I wished we dealt with more parents like you.


I got 2 juveniles trepassing at a middle school when school was out. The kids video taped themselves and at one point they stick fake guns in their coats and go into the school after being told to leave.

I took them to the PD and called the parents. I even showed the parents the video and they still acted like their precious babies did nothing wrong.

[mcsap]

Ruby , thank you for reducing my job security....but dont worry , there are plenty of others who will act as the rest of the parents did. :rolleyes:

[ChesCopPodz]

My favorite one was at a graduation party. Kid goes to his empty house (his family had moved to a new house but their old one was still on the market) for a post prom party. About a dozen kids, minor drinking. The kids were all very decent actually, no attitudes at all. "Owner" of the house was 18. Found a marijuana pipe and the kid immediately fesses up, says it's his so his friends don't get in trouble for something that's his.

I call his dad to come to the house and tell him the charges, underage possession and possession of marijuana. Dad asks why we charge his son with the marijuana and I tell him about his son's statement. His dad tells me over the phone that "well when I get there, we'll just forget about that little statement". I tell him no, that's not going to happen. Dad says again that since he wasn't there, his statement doesn't count. I told dad that I hated to break it to him, but his kid's 18 and considered an adult. The whole thing about having mommy and daddy there is what doesn't count anymore.

[Sabian84]

When my son got home around 11 pm, he told me the entire story...including the part about the beer.

Wow Ruby, you must have put the fear of God into him early. Sounds like my mom..... She was an a** whooping ninja.:p

[Ispbear]

Ruby, Thanks for being such a good parent. It's nice to know that there will still be a few good kids growing up to become productive citizens in this day and age.

Then again, if every parent were like you, we would probably be out of a job.:p

[ruby0711]

I mean, it was a Tuesday night (school night), on the other side of town, the kids were from a reasonable fmaily (not drug addict slum dwellers - should have known better), and Dad was out of town at the darts club drinking with his mates, while junior and junior II were across town stealing from trucks....and he was angry with me!!! :mad: :mad:

It will never cease to amaze me how these parents can be like this.

I live in a town where nearly 65% of residents have advanced college degree's...and a lot of money. 65% of those upper-middle class brats are some of the biggest...a$$-hats in the town.

I got 2 juveniles trepassing at a middle school when school was out. The kids video taped themselves and at one point they stick fake guns in their coats and go into the school after being told to leave.

I took them to the PD and called the parents. I even showed the parents the video and they still acted like their precious babies did nothing wrong.

Nice.

Wow Ruby, you must have put the fear of God into him early. Sounds like my mom..... She was an a** whooping ninja.:p

LOL...well, it is not over yet. Sometimes I think I've done well.

Then there are times when I can completly understand why some mammals eat their young.

[Adamantine]

LOL...well, it is not over yet. Sometimes I think I've done well.

Then there are times when I can completly understand why some mammals eat their young.

+1! ROFLMAO!!!!

[noelchabanel]

It will never cease to amaze me how these parents can be like this.

I live in a town where nearly 65% of residents have advanced college degree's...and a lot of money. 65% of those upper-middle class brats are some of the biggest...a$$-hats in the town.

I know what you mean, I hope the economic downturn will send some of them back to the southerly places they came from so I can afford to buy a house . Their kids like the drugs too, but no one talks about it...very strange.

Good job being a good mom!

[CelicaGuy]

Wow Ruby, you must have put the fear of God into him early. Sounds like my mom..... She was an a** whooping ninja.:p

My mom beat my A$$ ONCE for talking back to her and my dad, and I never spoke back to another person in my life. Then I got a stopped for speeding by a police officer (happened to be a family friend), he let me off with a warning, but stated he was going to call my mom. Boy, did I GET IT!!!!!! She took my license away for 3 months, and my curfew was 8pm for those 3 months!!!! I have not sped since (outside of my duties of course)!

[normal1]

My mom beat my arse multiple times... not because I did anything wrong at that time, but just in case I did something wrong in the near future that she wouldn't find out about!

I must say she certainly "overpaid" :\