Visiting someone in jail...

[George]

No. When the owner (Jason) upgraded the site, it moved the people who hadn't put a birthday in, to 1992. So, it was a bug in the upgrade. I'm actually 19 years of age.

[massgrunt]

No. When the owner (Jason) upgraded the site, it moved the people who hadn't put a birthday in, to 1992. So, it was a bug in the upgrade. I'm actually 19 years of age.

Phew. Cause I was feeling really stupid for a minute. But I will venture to say that as you get older, your idealsim may wane and your practicality may wax.

[George]

Care to explain that in a less complicated way for me? :p

[massgrunt]

You'll be more self-centered, and not back lost causes, fight other people's fights, look out for #1, etc. And you'll realize this isn't a bad thing.


And you'll be in situations where this will no longer be hypothetical. Or you'll sacrifice for a "friend", only to have them bail on you when you need help.

[George]

The day that happens, is the day you'll see my name in the obbituaires(sp?). :p.

But in all seriousness, I hope that does not happen.

[massgrunt]

But in all seriousness, I hope that does not happen.

Well, don't take this the wrong way, but I hope it does. But there are worse things than to care deeply about loyalty and friendship. Keep in mind, it's not like I'm running out on him while he's getting jumped or something. But if he continually started fights and needed to be rescued (not likely, he could eat me for breakfast), it would get old quick.


Ok, anybody who's name is not George? ;)

[SnowLeopard]

In my family, we've had lots of times to visit people in jail!

That comes from a father and brother being lawyers and me being a security officer, however.

Your wish to visit him to give him hope is commendable. In the Navy, such visits are required if an officer has a sailor in the brig, to encourage the sailor to change the ways to the right path.

If our visits, of either being LEO or lawyer, were recorded, ran thru background checks, I don't think we sweated it much or even cared for they were part of official duties.

Two things of advice. First, dress simply. When I had to visit people in the brig, they required me to check my keys, my tie, my insignia, etc.. Anything that could be used as a weapon, could be used against me, had to be checked. In my case, I couldn't get out the door without getting my items back.

But not all places are like that, hence the second item of advice. Make sure you pick up your stuff. My brother, the lawyer, was visiting a client in a correctional facility and was given a locker to check his stuff in. He then came with his family for a visit but late in the evening, he reached into his pocket expecting to pull his porsche keys (brought the family in the sedan instead) and pulled out the locker keys instead. He had to get on the phone in a hurry to find out when they closed and then hustle the family out to get there before they closed. He made it.

Don't forget your things.
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("Don't make a mistake (and drop the package at the wrong address)!"--crime bosses to bag (bomb) lady, Mrs. "Pete", (wtte), "For Pete's Sake")

[massgrunt]

Thanks.

[Drew27k9]

He is a felon, and is looking at years behind bars, basically because he's stupid.

He might be stupid, but face it, he is a criminal. He might be a good friend to you, but remember the old saying, if you lay down with dogs, you get fleas. If you have no desire to become a police officer, go visit him. If you want to be a police officer, drop him as a friend.

What happens when he gets out of jail, and you are in the process of being hired somewhere. Now your background will show that you are associating with know felons. Believe me, that will knock you right out of the running.

[MOCOP]

Grunt you need to move on. While I understand friendship ask yourself what is more important. Visiting your buddy in jail or your future .
But you already know the ansewer to that don't you Marine.

[Prometheus]

Someone else has a sig line (I forget who, sorry) that reads, "If you want to know the character of a man, look at his friends".

I think true friends are people who pull you up in life, not drag you down. Write him if you wish, letters are a big thing for inmates, but you should mantain your distance.

[massgrunt]

Yeah, the last three posts pretty much reflect my mind-set.

That sig has been on my mind, and the fleas saying as well. It's just sad to see someone screw themselves over so effectively. But it's not like I can hold his friggin hand for the rest of his life, nor do I want to.

The main conscience pang is that I'm sure he'd visit me. Oh, well.

[Jeff L]

massgrunt:

I know how it feels, I have an ex-gf/fiancee who I had to "get rid of" because I knew it was the right thing to do for myself and my future. Once I had a "friend" like that too, I stopped hanging out with him after he had the police called on him two times in one day while we were hanging out.

[Jeff L]

Yeah, the last three posts pretty much reflect my mind-set.

The main conscience pang is that I'm sure he'd visit me. Oh, well.

Felons would do a lot of things you wouldn't do ;)

[JD45]

Jobs are easy to come by nowadays, but true friends arn't.

Not LE jobs..;) Well at least not in CA. Just as everyone else said, you're going to have to make a descion. I wouldn't worry about be 'run' in the computer system. What I would worry about is having to list my friends down on the background packet and you list him. Then when they do the background check on your friend and ask why you 'chose' to keep in contact with him knowing that he is a repeat felon... See what I'm getting at?