my husband and I moved into his parents basement about 2 years ago to assist my father-in-law with his health issues. We pay a monthly rent to help with utilities and what not. About a year after we moved in, my husband's oldest child moved in. His room is located on the main floor between my mother and father-in-law's rooms, while my husband and i rent the basement.
My stepson is 19. We recently found out that he is using marijuana, cocaine, and herone. Ok the marijuanna we have know about for some time. We are contatly telling him it is not ok for him to do that at the house and he needs to quit or take it someplace else.
Things are getting worse and, as his parents, we have told him to move out if he is going to continue using drugs. This is where we run into an issue. Since the house is technically my in-law's house, we are told everytime that we cannot evict anyone out of the house. My father-in-law is always stepping in and taking my stepson's side by believing the lies he has been feeding them.
Just in the past 3 weeks, my stepson has taken their car for 24 hours or longer two times, told them a cartel gang member is going to come to the house and shoot everyone if he didn't get $300 - which they not only gave him, but they took him to the meeting to pay off his drug debt, stolen money and belongings of others, and was caught rith a "foil" that he had been using to smoke heroine from.
What can I do? We can't move and leave my 80 yo in-laws to fend for themselves, as we do the maintenance and upkeep of the house and yard, and assist my father-in-law with transportation to doctors and hospital visits. When we say we are going to call the police, they take the phones and get mad that we would turn their grandson in for anything. Then the fighting starts and my husband is afraid the stress will kill his father.
Any advice on how to handle this would be great. We have 2 other minor kids that visit contantly and we need to think of their safety as well.