Should I take the job or wait?

[mmg1987]

My fiance and I are currently doing this. We were 800 miles apart for over a year, but now we are only three hours apart. When we are finally back together this summer, it will be almost two years. It is hard, but like 1depd said, technology makes it much easier. We talk on the phone everyday, but the biggest thing (and this will reveal my inner dork) is that we play online multi-player games together. We even have headsets so we can talk to each other . I think the key is to find something that you two love that can be done together while you are apart and the time will fly by. Above all else, though, is that you have to trust one another. When I moved, it was understood that the job is what I always wanted. My fiance supports me of course and we will both do whatever it takes for the relationship to work.

Now that I think about it though, maybe this distance is why we have managed to stay together. When he moves back in, we might kill each other within the first week lol.

[TwistedDrum5]

My fiance and I are currently doing this. We were 800 miles apart for over a year, but now we are only three hours apart. When we are finally back together this summer, it will be almost two years. It is hard, but like 1depd said, technology makes it much easier. We talk on the phone everyday, but the biggest thing (and this will reveal my inner dork) is that we play online multi-player games together. We even have headsets so we can talk to each other . I think the key is to find something that you two love that can be done together while you are apart and the time will fly by. Above all else, though, is that you have to trust one another. When I moved, it was understood that the job is what I always wanted. My fiance supports me of course and we will both do whatever it takes for the relationship to work.

Now that I think about it though, maybe this distance is why we have managed to stay together. When he moves back in, we might kill each other within the first week lol.

Thanks for the advice. We both actively play Halo online, lol. So that will help.

[Mack0427]

If you take the job in Indiana, you will be certified in Indiana, not Illinois. You should contact the Illinois Training and Standards Board to see what the process is for Indiana officers to get certification in Illinois. You are correct that most municipal depts and sheriff's depts will prefer someone that already has certification because it will save the dept money by not having to send a new officer to an academy. Do you really want the job and want to move out of state? What many officers in my area do is get on with a dept as a part time officer. While working part time, you can then take part time academy classes on weekends through a mobile training unit. As a part time officer, you not only allow officers in your dept get to know you but you can also network with officers in other depts. You will have a much better chance of getting on full time because not only will it be less expensive for the hiring agency (you will still have to take a 2 week transition course to be full time certified) but you are known by officers and management in agencies and that will give you a big leg up on other applicants.

As far as living apart from your fiancee, I recently took a new job 2.5 hours away from home. I stay in an apartment up where I work and come home on my days off. We have only been married a little over 2 years and it HAS NOT BEEN GOOD for the marriage. It also places a strain on finances supporting 2 households. However, my wife is mexican and has strong family values. I sometimes try to pretend that I am back in college and I am away at school for the week while she is home. Having children definitely has to wait. But if you really want the job and she is either willing to move or has no reservations about being apart, give it a shot!