Do I have to disclose an extra-marital affair I had. Biggest mistake ever....
If I do, will it hurt my chances?
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10-31-08 01:03 PM #1
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Do I Have to Disclose?
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10-31-08 01:06 PM #2
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good question...
i wonder how much that plays a role in choosing a candidate though, considering I seen a statistic somewhere before that 61% of LEO's have cheated or have gotten a divorce... Not sure how much merit I place in that statistic though, considering for everyone you see going one way, you can find another that says the opposite...
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10-31-08 01:40 PM #3
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maybe, and maybe.
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I mean, we're getting killed for these people and they don't even appreciate it. They think it's a big joke.
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10-31-08 02:09 PM #4
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grreat.
thanks!
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10-31-08 02:11 PM #5
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in some states adultry is still a crime..........go from there---disclose it.
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10-31-08 05:24 PM #6
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follow their directions to a "t." if it asks that question, disclose it. if they don't, then you have no reason to asnwer it.
Wiggum: Put out an APB on a Uosdwis R. Dewoh. Uh, better start with Greektown.
Friday: That's "Homer J. Simpson", Chief. You're reading it upside down.
Wiggum: Uh, cancel that APB. But, uh, bring back some of them, uh, gyros.
Friday: Uh, Chief? You're talking into your wallet.
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10-31-08 05:35 PM #7
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Of course you don't. You don't have to disclose anything you don't want to. You can always let them find out on their own.
The downside is they don't have to hire you, either.
Your choice.
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10-31-08 10:36 PM #8
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Sound advice from someone who hasnt completed a hiring process yet!:cool:
Originally Posted by dkl1986
At some point they will interview you and ask that you tell them anything you think may be an issue in your past. Disclose your affair.“Take you hands off the car, and I’ll make your birth certificate a worthless document." UNKNOWN
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10-31-08 10:50 PM #9
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Marriage includes a vow.
Being sworn in as a police officer includes an oath.
Someone who will have an affair on the person they took a vow to nurture and care surely can violate a " trivial " thing like an oath.
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10-31-08 11:11 PM #10
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yeah, very true. guess you can tell one other thing, too. i've always been faithful to EVERY girl i've dated. :( i'll always feel bad about that one, too. Originally Posted by Roger Dat
to clarify, i don't mean to withhold anything they ask for. i suppose the reason why i stated what i did earlier was that i once talked to a guy in the police academy that was undergoing his BI. having never applied at this time, i asked him a few questions. he said, "be completely honest, but somethings you don't need to tell everybody. there's this guy in our class that was interviewing and doing his background. when asked if there was anything else they needed to know about him, he said, 'well, i'm currently in therapy because i'm a chronic masturbator.'"
the guy told me they said, "thanks, but no thanks."Last edited by dkl1986; 10-31-08 at 11:14 PM. Reason: adding an unhappy face.
Wiggum: Put out an APB on a Uosdwis R. Dewoh. Uh, better start with Greektown.
Friday: That's "Homer J. Simpson", Chief. You're reading it upside down.
Wiggum: Uh, cancel that APB. But, uh, bring back some of them, uh, gyros.
Friday: Uh, Chief? You're talking into your wallet.
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11-03-08 02:08 AM #11
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Get married and then tell us how you're fairing... dating and marriage are two VERY different things. And quit giving advice on things you're not experienced in. Originally Posted by dkl1986
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11-03-08 05:44 PM #12
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noted. :( Originally Posted by camp4928
Wiggum: Put out an APB on a Uosdwis R. Dewoh. Uh, better start with Greektown.
Friday: That's "Homer J. Simpson", Chief. You're reading it upside down.
Wiggum: Uh, cancel that APB. But, uh, bring back some of them, uh, gyros.
Friday: Uh, Chief? You're talking into your wallet.
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11-09-08 01:10 AM #13
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Sorry, I think I was in a sour mood the night I posted that. Didn't mean to hurt you in any way. Anyway, I always thought before I was married that I had an idea of what it was like, but really I had no clue. It can be the best and the hardest relationship you've had in your life all in the same week. Again, sorry for being harsh. Originally Posted by dkl1986
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11-09-08 05:48 AM #14
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it's only a forum. water off a duck's back. now if we were in 2nd grade together, then i might not invite you to my birthday party! :mad: Originally Posted by camp4928
Wiggum: Put out an APB on a Uosdwis R. Dewoh. Uh, better start with Greektown.
Friday: That's "Homer J. Simpson", Chief. You're reading it upside down.
Wiggum: Uh, cancel that APB. But, uh, bring back some of them, uh, gyros.
Friday: Uh, Chief? You're talking into your wallet.
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