How to stop unwanted person from coming to your home?

[rfa2068]

My brother lives with my mother who has made it clear to him that his girlfriend is not welcomed in her home. She has made this clear to her also. The reason is that she is a drug user and a dealer and a bad influence on my brother. She doesn't listen and still keeps coming to my mother's home especially when she's at work. He doesn't listen to my mother also because I think the drugs has got a strong hold of him like his girlfriend. My brother is at fault also because he lets her in. My mother doesn't have proof but she's almost sure they do drugs in the house. There are children (ages 8 & 10) in the house also. My mother is afraid that her house might get raided by the police because there is drug use and possibly drug dealing going on when she's not at home.

I've suggested filing for restraining order but that's only if a life is in danger. The girlfriend has not made any threats to my mother or anyone else in her home, so I think that's not an option.

My mother is an elderly woman that is retiring next year and she wants this problem to end. What can she do to permanently stop this person from coming into her home?

[retdetsgt]

Your mother needs to throw your brother out. As long as he lives there, he can legally bring any guests he wants in the house.

[Samuel]

^ Yep.

[icu650]

My brother lives with my mother
There are children (ages 8 & 10) in the house also.
My mother is an elderly woman ?

Whose kids are these, your brothers?
If there are kids present and you suspect drug use occurring in their presence call or write "Child Protection Services" or you counties equivalent. Start there and keep going. Include into your report the dates, times of activity, provable facts such as odors in the house or narcotic implements laying around and reasons for your suspicions and concern.

If these are your kids and you are at work while mom is watching them, shame on you.

[Ispbear]

Your mother needs to throw your brother out. As long as he lives there, he can legally bring any guests he wants in the house.

Ding, Ding, Ding --- We have a winner!

What kind of mother would let a person expose an 8 and 10 year old to drugs even if it is her son?

[DeltaV]

Why don't people always see the most obvious solution to a problem?

[mcsap]

My take on this is that mom can formally notify the gf to stay out and tell her beloved son that the gf is not allowed in. If she then shows up , I could charge her with trespass since the son does not have legal authority to circumvent the homeowner.

But I doubt she will do this.

[Big Sexy]

she is a bad influence on my brother.

You ever notice damn near everyone who posts this sort of question here, it's their squeaky clean relative/friend who is being badly influenced by someone else? If only we can this person away from them, they'll return to their wholesome leave it to beaver exsistance.

At which point we'll get a question from them, about how wonderful of a person they are and can they fulfill their life's dream of being a police officer; albeit with a few years of drug use and petty thievery under their belts. Let us not forget, what a wonderful undercover they'd make, because they understand the mind of the addict, know where to buy narcotics and in tv, that person is always the best cop.

[retdetsgt]

You ever notice damn near everyone who posts this sort of question here, it's their squeaky clean relative/friend who is being badly influenced by someone else? If only we can this person away from them, they'll return to their wholesome leave it to beaver exsistance.

Yep, brother living with his elderly mother, has little kids in the house and dates a drug dealer. Sounds like a real winner.

Getting rid of the girl friend will no doubt turn his life around....