Just a few questions ?

[retdetsgt]

Sounds like he's a bit nuts. I'd be careful whatever you do.

[mcsap]

I left it out because I didn't feel comfortable saying it and it didn't seem significant, but you are right. It's his father and his father's husband that hate me. My boyfriend's father is gay. But it's his father who is the one making up stories and such.

But other than that, no, there isn't anyone else, in his family or not, that "is casting significant aspersions." I find it impressive that you could tell it was more than one person, though.

Having been a police officer for 29 yrs mandates that I accumulate at least SOME insight into other peoples lives.

[icu650]

Your boyfriends father chose the way he wants to live his life, that's fine. You must also choose the way you want to live your life. Talk to your boyfriend and make sure he is serious about your relationship. Make sure he is ready to stay with you over his fathers objections. If he is serious and will stay with you don't worry about the unfounded legal issues his father is threatening you with. Be aware that the police department does not have to run out and arrest someone right away because of stories told by an individual. They can investigate a case, look at the evidence including videos', take statements from witnesses and when finished present it before a Grand Jury (in some states), or request an arrest warrant. From the time frame you mentioned I think you should go on and enjoy being 21, I wish I was.

[valycop]

It supposedly cashed after I got kicked out. Firsthe said it was at Quakertown National Bank which is about an hour and half away from me, and I don't have a license or a car to get there with. Then he said it was the Perkasie branch of QNB which is the closest to my house but still an hour or so away. He kept adding details to make it more belieavable.

The day after I got kicked out my boyfriend told his father he was moving in with me in my parent's house because he was so angry at him for kicking me out. The day after his car got spray painted and he blamed it on my brother who has had no affiliation with his father whatsoever. He said that the police had proof of it.

He stuck up for me when I got kicked out, but his first intetion was to straighten everything out and get me to move back in. Every time his father made up a new lie about me he never believed it but his father would constantly scream at him to leave me. Which is why we started secretly dating because neither of us wanted him to go through that. I think its a valid point to add that his father did not raise him. He lived with his mother from 8 years old until a year ago. This is another reason why I think he's afraid of him.

I'd say in percentage values its 70% me 30% him due to the fact that he is currently paying off a car and has expensive car insurance because it's his first car. I can put more towards it financially at the moment and that's what I do. He does what he can.

There is a very old saying that is appropriate to this diatribe your boyfriends father is throwing at you. "Believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see."