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[ottoheather93]

im 18 years old and would like to spend the night with my boyfriend t his house. but my dad wont let, can he call the cops? and can they do anything?

[Kimble]

im 18 years old and would like to spend the night with my boyfriend t his house. but my dad wont let, can he call the cops? and can they do anything?

Your dad can do whatever he wants. If you and your boyfriend are both of the age to be consenting adults there's probably nothing the police can do, but that doesn't mean your dad can't physically pick up the phone and make a phone call.

[Joeyd6]

Doesn't mean he can't kick you out of your house, not pay/help for college, and take away any car/insurance, etc...

You want to sleep with your boyfriend and "play house" at 18, your dad has every right to cut you off financially and let you play on your own. His house- his rules!

[retdetsgt]

Doesn't mean he can't kick you out of your house, not pay/help for college, and take away any car/insurance, etc...

You want to sleep with your boyfriend and "play house" at 18, your dad has every right to cut you off financially and let you play on your own. His house- his rules!

A joke someone sent me:

My daughter just walked into the living room and said: "Dad cancel my
allowance, rent my room out, throw all my clothes out of the window, take my
TV, stereo, iPhone and jewelry to the charity shop. Sell my car, take my
front door key and throw me out of the house." Well, she didn't exactly put
it like that.


Actually she said, "Dad, this is my new boyfriend, Mohammed."

[Gutwrench]

Is your boyfriend>/= 18? If not, then depending upon the state you could find yourself in hot water.

I agree with the others. If you want the freedom to do as you please then with that comes the responsibility to provide for your own freedom. I suggest you take a deep breath and examine your family and your life and find the mature appropriate balance.

[Outshined]

Christ you guys, at 18 I had a live in girlfriend and three jobs and an efficiency apartment.

With that said you should probably examine your lifestyle, and do what your dad wishes. He must love you or he would let you go.

[retdetsgt]

Christ you guys, at 18 I had a live in girlfriend and three jobs and an efficiency apartment.

Emphasis added.

That's the big difference. After my daughters turned 18, I slacked most of the rules, but a few were left intact. I enforced the Golden Rule. He who has the gold, makes the rules. When they lived on their own, they could do anything they wanted to. My house, my rules.

I'm making no moral judgement, but if she wants to live the way she wants to, then she needs to support herself.

[Outshined]

Emphasis added.

That's the big difference. After my daughters turned 18, I slacked most of the rules, but a few were left intact. I enforced the Golden Rule. He who has the gold, makes the rules. When they lived on their own, they could do anything they wanted to. My house, my rules.

I'm making no moral judgement, but if she wants to live the way she wants to, then she needs to support herself.

Agreed.

[tcop733]

Since I have a daughter close to your age I'll say this; OBEY YOUR FATHER.
If you can't there will be consequences for your desires of independence........You'll have it and all the responsibilities.
Enjoy being a kid for as long as you can.

[icu650]

I think it's great that you even told your father. You could have said you were going to sleep over your girlfriends house or whatever. The fact that you told your father and wrote to us makes me think that you have second thoughts about sleeping with this particular person. If you are not comfortable with this particular person wait. See what he says when you tell him you're not going to stay over. I'm not going to tell you it's ok or it's not ok. You're 18 years old consider the consequences all the way around both good and bad. Your old enough to be responsible for all your actions. Heck, when I was 18 I was living in an apartment with a girl I eventually married. The difference is my parents moved and I was on my own. I didn't have to go home to them at night as you do.