My husband is a abuser....what can i do.

[knnthcv]

I finally had the courage to get a lawyer and file for a divorce...over the yrs i tried my best to ignore my husbands controlling ways...i admit many times that when the police were called i didnt press further, or press charges..i left once to a shelter but i decided that is my home--the home is under my name not his-and went back..my husband knows not to hit me for he knows the system not leave marks and how not to go to jail..its been a few yrs since he hit me,now its the verbal abuse over and over..always trying to get the upper hand...now its my girls who live there -one is 18 and the other 21-both pay rent,go to schoool and both are moving on when they can..the abuse continues everyday,my husband pushes my 21 yr old,verbally abuses her and in front of her friends..when she pushed back,he said he would call the cops because she said stop...then 3 days ago he threw coffee at her and on her..at first she didnt want to call the police,but as her mother i stuck up for her and i did,the police didnt doubt her because as they did the report and found coffee in car,on snow and stains on her shirt...but he got away with it and im sad officers...the detectice followed up with him,not me or my daughter..today i met with detective to show i need help but he could nothing...what can i do officers?? Wont the court see a pattern with him--i lived in fear and i worked-and raised my kids-i fight back-i had to use up all my money to catch up on bills,because he doesnt work...im so sad...i can only look forward to my divorce...im sorry if this was a rant but i have no one else and i understand that its only my word here but i choose this place because i feel safe...thank you

[Citicop]

You (or the girls) can get a restraining order to remove him from the house if you are afraid of him.

Short of that, you (and the girls) can move out until the divorce settlement to be away from him.

I understand the sentiment that the house is in your name and you shouldn't have to leave... but if you don't feel safe there then get out and soon before someone gets hurt.

-Citicop.

[GoDirectly2Jail]

To expand on Citi's post, if you decide to leave - take a walking video through the house before you go, highlighting the personal items you have (TVs, furniture etc) and the general condition of the house. Give it to your attorney. Once the divorce is final and he is out, you can use the video to show what damage he may have caused (holes in walls, damage, carpet rips/stains, etc) as retribution while he was there by himself.

[Outshined]

Where do you live? Around here if a guy farts at his wife he gets arrested.

[Cat_Doc]

Where do you live? Around here if a guy farts at his wife he gets arrested.

So, I read this, then I read this: So just what *does* it smell like?

Weird, huh?