How should I handle this stalking situation?

[Una]

I didn't file a false report. My abusive ex-boyfriend faxed in information to the police department that I didn't even find out about until the police came to my place of employment. I still have never seen this piece of paper that was faxed over. I only know what the cop told me about it. And when I attempted multiple times to explain what had actually happened, the female detective repeatedly interrupted me while her male sidekick played with his handcuffs and smirked at me.

I didn't explain more earlier because I'm a little nervous about sharing so openly about my life on the internet and because, until the pictures were posted today, it wasn't actually that relevant, and because I was afraid that this would happen... that nobody would want to help me.

And people wonder why victims of sexual violence won't come forward. This would be one of those reasons.

And this definitely answers my question regarding what to do. No need to go down to the police station tomorrow if this is really the attitude that cops have about child pornography and sexual assault. The blood's not on my hands if these creeps who hurt me are out there hurting other children. It's on the hands of cops all over the country who disregard (in the words of greg72982) people who are trying to come forward and put their sex offenders behind bars.

And while I'm at it, let me just say this too: I happen to think it's really wrong for police officers to refuse to take down reports of rape and demand that you go to the ER and pay $2K for a rape kit when you don't even have the $2K to pay. Filing a report about rape should not be conditional of one's ability to pay $2K.

I am so done with dealing with cops. You guys have just confirmed everything that I was hoping I was just being really cynical about.

But no worries... I won't ever call 911 again.

[greg72982]

I didn't file a false report. My abusive ex-boyfriend faxed in information to the police department that I didn't even find out about until the police came to my place of employment. I still have never seen this piece of paper that was faxed over. I only know what the cop told me about it. And when I attempted multiple times to explain what had actually happened, the female detective repeatedly interrupted me while her male sidekick played with his handcuffs and smirked at me.

I didn't explain more earlier because I'm a little nervous about sharing so openly about my life on the internet and because, until the pictures were posted today, it wasn't actually that relevant, and because I was afraid that this would happen... that nobody would want to help me.

And people wonder why victims of sexual violence won't come forward. This would be one of those reasons.

And this definitely answers my question regarding what to do. No need to go down to the police station tomorrow if this is really the attitude that cops have about child pornography and sexual assault. The blood's not on my hands if these creeps who hurt me are out there hurting other children. It's on the hands of cops all over the country who disregard (in the words of greg72982) people who are trying to come forward and put their sex offenders behind bars.

And while I'm at it, let me just say this too: I happen to think it's really wrong for police officers to refuse to take down reports of rape and demand that you go to the ER and pay $2K for a rape kit when you don't even have the $2K to pay. Filing a report about rape should not be conditional of one's ability to pay $2K.

I am so done with dealing with cops. You guys have just confirmed everything that I was hoping I was just being really cynical about.

But no worries... I won't ever call 911 again.

Whoaaa calm down. I wasn't saying disregard to you. I edited my post and since I couldnt delete it altogether I just put "disregard" in place of my original post.

I don't know why the police are blowing you off. Even if you made false reports in the past they shouldn't ignore your request and should at least come down to see if your ex-b/f is there. I'm not sure what this thing about the door not legally being yours is all about. If you are renting the place for legal purposes it's yours. If you want him removed the police can do this, if he refuses, at least here, it's defiant trespass and he goes with me.

[retdetsgt]

And while I'm at it, let me just say this too: I happen to think it's really wrong for police officers to refuse to take down reports of rape and demand that you go to the ER and pay $2K for a rape kit when you don't even have the $2K to pay. Filing a report about rape should not be conditional of one's ability to pay $2K.

You have a strange situation there. We don't force any victim to do anything, but it's damn near impossible to proceed with a rape trial w/o a rape. But I have never heard of the victim having to pay a dime for anything.

I think I'd move to another town if I were you.

[Legoate]

I am so done with dealing with cops. You guys have just confirmed everything that I was hoping I was just being really cynical about.

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And you have confirmed everything thing I thought about your first post. There was WAY more to the story than you decided to post. Your original story here was a boohoo account of how the police ignored you when some ex was stalking you and pounding on your front door.... Then it turns into a Jerry Springer saga about how you were somehow enslaved and forced into pornography at a young age and the the person was now going to post naked pictures of you all over your door to embarrass you.

In the end I realized that police, and even the detective division has investigated your claims and feel they are without merit. From your lying and participation in all this idiocy you appear to have tainted any testimony that you could possibly give and I doubt any DA would touch a case of yours with a 10' pole.

We don't have an "attitude" against actual victims, we do however get fed up with people who dig themselves really deep into situations, lie about it, then expect us to get them out of it. It doesn't work that way. We still have to prove cases to a jury and their are so many holes and lies in your story that the case would not be prosecutable.

But no worries... I won't ever call 911 again.

I doubt that this is true. Without feeling like a victim you would really have no life. You have been given plenty of advice on what to do here, and I'd bet that your local PD gave you advice also. If you decide to live in the same place and keep the same phone number that's up to you.