I feel weird asking this

[Suarez718]

hi my name is Ed i live in Indianapolis,Indiana

my occupation through school is assistant manager at a fast food rest. (id rather not mention the name of the chain it could get me fired)

i pride myself in customer assistance im type of manager that is very friendly as this tends to build my "repeat customer" base.
Say if your card didnt work and you had no money..rather than send you on your way packing if the order is not over 15 dollars i just give the food to them..why?because that is how i am..

getting to the point...

i have this one customer who is admittedly homeless and lives out of his mini van...
when i worked graveyard shift at my store he became to come more often..
and i made the mistake of lending him my ear to his problems..
and i considered him a regular customer so i discounted his items and continued to let him talk to me about his problems in life.
it became worse ...he would wait for me to go to my car after my shift and pull next to me and talk more..the more and more i talked to him..the more i realized i was dealing with a sort of sociopath or schitzophrenic ...he would sputter random things...at times say some pretty outlandish things...after he had waited for me the second time i confronted him about him hanging around the store too much and overstepping personal boundries
and he didnt come back utill last night...
and he was showing me photos of weapons he either owned or still owns..
and he was telling me crazy things like.."you are like a son to me.." and "we are like brothers"
etc..then i felt weird..and he waited for me to get off and asked me if it was alright if he could follow me ..and i said pretty much hell no..and he begged me...then i got worried..
so i jumped in my car and sped out..he followed me..i had no cellphone..its was almost midnighht and noone was out..so i lost him and now im sitting home wondering if he has followed me home before or not..
because i recall seeing him at a market not too far from my house but at the time thought nothing about it..
now here is the problem..its obvious i have a male stalker who is obsessive..
and for this reason..forgive me for being blunt..but i feel like a sissy going to the police..
but my question is...if this guy has no home..i dont know his last name ...how do i file a report on him..really i have no idea what to do.....i dont feel good about this situation at all..
i was only nice to this guy...
i plan on talking to the local police tommorow but i need to know..what do i ask for ?
i appreciate any advice u can offer

[sgtbear111]

Sometimes showing concern and compassion backfires. Ask for a Police / Sheriff patrol officer who works your area, knows your store, and likely knows this person. Ask the officer to do a "civil stand by" while you (yourself, in person) explain the reality and limits of your "friendship" to this person. Prepare for that talk with him. Be firm, understanding, and do not let him manipulate or back you down.

If he flunks on attitude and cooperation, consider a court order. Court orders often give out more personal info than you want to. For a person at the fringes of society and the law, court papers have little meaning, but are a tool for the police to remove or arrest. You will be acting for yourself and your employer. Let your manager know what has developed.

Some people are just "broken", have no family, social or people skills, and no sense of "normal" because they are not... An act of kindness, generosity, or friendship gets a response as desperate as a drowning person grabbing a rescue swimmer. Something you did or said, was interpreted by this guy as he wanted it, not as you wanted it. Remember : there is a reason (somewhere) for why he lives on the streets.

It is your job to re-define the relationship with this person. Have an officer there for safety, and perhaps a trusted friend or co-worker as a witness. Expect some anti-social response, blame transfer, flipping and twisting your words, yelling and screaming, threats (that is why the officer should be there)..... It is OK to say you are "sorry", but one time is enough.

Have you ever had a mangy stray dog follow you?

Good luck.

[JakeLock]

Also, I would reccommend removing your full name from your post.

[Legoate]

Also, I would reccommend removing your full name from your post.

I was thinking the same thing...there is something to be said for internet anonymity.