Really important i need advice asap i dont know what to do

[karendv]

i just turned 17 in may
my boyfriend of 2 years is 19
has been living with me and my mom for almost a year now
at first they got along great and thats y she let him live with us
because his job at that time didnt pay him too well n he needed help
now he has a better job a car bills
and he pays them all and even helps out with bills at home
just recently my mom started having problems with
him due to a problem we had
she is not the easiest person to deal with
but i dont argue with her i just listen to her
because i know when she gets everything out she just goes back to normal as if she
wasnt even mad but when she is mad she never thinks about
wat she is saying she now has issues with seeing us hug or hold hands
i mean its normal we have been together for 2 years
i dont disrespect her tho i never kiss him in front of her
because i just dont feel comfortable doing that
so i dont understand why she gets so angry
she is so hard headed she never wants to listen to what i say
im 17 already and she still wants to do everything for me
she doesnt want me to get a job
note: i am her only daughter and only child
i am getting tired of it i want a little mre freedom
i dont go party or anything ill once in a while got hang out with my bestfriend but thats
about it or just be with my boyfriend
i dont do drugs and i dont drink
i never really gave her any problems so its hard for me
to come up with an answer as to why she is like that
and by freedom i mean i want to get a job learn things for myself and
do things for myself around the house
her and my boyfriend just recently started having problems
she will talk to him the way she talks to me when shes mad
and he never disrespects her because he loves me and he doesnt want to disrespect me
but he says he cant take it anymore
i understand him just recently we decided we want to get married and that i would go live with him
he is getting his own place because my mom want to move to a different city
and his work would be far
im in a charter school so i only go 2 days a week to catch up on my credits faster
and he is the one always takin me to school and picking me up
so i wouldnt stop going to school
i want to graduate and make somethiing of myself
he is working a good job and is in college
we have talked to my dad
about it and he says he would support me
he knows how my mom is and how hard it is to do anything
while living with her
he says that he will be there if we decide to get married
because from what i know u have to atleast have the permission of one
of your parents and they have to be present
i forgot to say that i live in CALIFORNIA
so correct me if im wrong
i know im young but this is what i want i want to feel more independent
i love him and i want to be able to do things on my own
its also because when we move she said i wasnt really gonna see him
and thats hard because i love him and he loves me
her anger issues and the way she talks to him is hurting our relationship but he still hangs in there for me
well we just told her yesterday that we were gonna get married and she
got so mad told him so many things and now they arnt talking
she also said she was going to do anything in her power to not let it happen
i feel like it is so hard for her to let go because im her only child
but she is pushing me away
if im making a mistake i want to learn for myself
that would just be a lesson to me


so i have a question
what can i do ?
what would she be able to do?
will any of us get in trouble ?
AGAIN WE DO HAVE MY DADS SUPPORT
if i leave would i get introuble with the law?

[txinvestigator1]

What is wrong with people? Does anyone really think it is a good idea to move your teen daughters boyfriend into the house?

And how does HE live with himself mooching off his teen girlfriends parents?

How does a 17 year old write a piece of garbage like that?

Good grief.....

Little girl, it does not matter what we tell you. You have been surrounded your entire life by people who make bad decisions, and you have learned and are living that. Your life is chaos.

That said, my advice is for you to kick the guy out. Tell him to come see you when he can support himself. Stay in school, go to college (Jr or community college if needed). Take some grammar classes.

I pray you are on the pill and using condoms. Put marriage out of your mind. You chance of having a kid and being divorced are extremely high now.

But you won't do any of that. You will drive your life right into the ditch, and that makes me sooooo sad.

[pac201]

what is wrong with people? Does anyone really think it is a good idea to move your teen daughters boyfriend into the house?

And how does he live with himself mooching off his teen girlfriends parents?

How does a 17 year old write a piece of garbage like that?

Good grief.....

Little girl, it does not matter what we tell you. You have been surrounded your entire life by people who make bad decisions, and you have learned and are living that. Your life is chaos.

That said, my advice is for you to kick the guy out. Tell him to come see you when he can support himself. Stay in school, go to college (jr or community college if needed). Take some grammar classes.

I pray you are on the pill and using condoms. Put marriage out of your mind. Your chance of having a kid and being divorced are extremely high now.

But you won't do any of that. You will drive your life right into the ditch, and that makes me sooooo sad.

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[GoDirectly2Jail]

i just turned 17 in may
my boyfriend of 2 years is 19
has been living with me and my mom for almost a year now
at first they got along great and thats y she let him live with us
because his job at that time didnt pay him too well n he needed help
now he has a better job a car bills
and he pays them all and even helps out with bills at home
just recently my mom started having problems with
him due to a problem we had
she is not the easiest person to deal with
but i dont argue with her i just listen to her
because i know when she gets everything out she just goes back to normal as if she
wasnt even mad but when she is mad she never thinks about
wat she is saying she now has issues with seeing us hug or hold hands
i mean its normal we have been together for 2 years
i dont disrespect her tho i never kiss him in front of her
because i just dont feel comfortable doing that
so i dont understand why she gets so angry
she is so hard headed she never wants to listen to what i say
im 17 already and she still wants to do everything for me
she doesnt want me to get a job
note: i am her only daughter and only child
i am getting tired of it i want a little mre freedom
i dont go party or anything ill once in a while got hang out with my bestfriend but thats
about it or just be with my boyfriend
i dont do drugs and i dont drink
i never really gave her any problems so its hard for me
to come up with an answer as to why she is like that
and by freedom i mean i want to get a job learn things for myself and
do things for myself around the house
her and my boyfriend just recently started having problems
she will talk to him the way she talks to me when shes mad
and he never disrespects her because he loves me and he doesnt want to disrespect me
but he says he cant take it anymore
i understand him just recently we decided we want to get married and that i would go live with him
he is getting his own place because my mom want to move to a different city
and his work would be far
im in a charter school so i only go 2 days a week to catch up on my credits faster
and he is the one always takin me to school and picking me up
so i wouldnt stop going to school
i want to graduate and make somethiing of myself
he is working a good job and is in college
we have talked to my dad
about it and he says he would support me
he knows how my mom is and how hard it is to do anything
while living with her
he says that he will be there if we decide to get married
because from what i know u have to atleast have the permission of one
of your parents and they have to be present
i forgot to say that i live in CALIFORNIA
so correct me if im wrong
i know im young but this is what i want i want to feel more independent
i love him and i want to be able to do things on my own
its also because when we move she said i wasnt really gonna see him
and thats hard because i love him and he loves me
her anger issues and the way she talks to him is hurting our relationship but he still hangs in there for me
well we just told her yesterday that we were gonna get married and she
got so mad told him so many things and now they arnt talking
she also said she was going to do anything in her power to not let it happen
i feel like it is so hard for her to let go because im her only child
but she is pushing me away
if im making a mistake i want to learn for myself
that would just be a lesson to me


so i have a question
what can i do ?
what would she be able to do?
will any of us get in trouble ?
AGAIN WE DO HAVE MY DADS SUPPORT
if i leave would i get introuble with the law?

??? I'm not convinced this is a legit post.

Is that, what, 40 text messages all pieced together?

In any case, this is not a law enforcement matter.

[scott715us]

Wow.....

[patchcop]

I think she smoked anything illegal. If not,

GIRL, don't put yourself and the child you want to the social wellfare, go back to school, learn something, look for a job and when you're old enough, than, and only than, think about having a baby with the man who will have the love for you and the kid and who will have the money to feed a family!

[BP348]

But you won't do any of that. You will drive your life right into the ditch, and that makes me sooooo sad.

I agree with all of TX's post but espically this^. As a Father of 2 daughters I really don't get the whole "let the boyfriend move in" thing. That just boggles the mind. You can't be there 100% of the time and kids of that age will do what kids of that age are going to do, and the next thing you know not only are two lives ruined but three when you count the baby. OK maybe ruined is to harsh of a term but it get's the point across.

How does this kid expect to take care of a wife, and maybe a child, if he can't even support himself?

To the OP, I can only recommend that you and your BF finish school and get decent jobs/careers. There is plenty of time to get married and have childeren down the road. But of course like most kids your age I'm sure you think everything has to happen ASAP.

[Laww]

I am speechless on a bunch of different levels here. Excuse me while I go hug my little girl before any of this has the slightest remote possibility of happening....