a cop is NOT what i wanted or hoped for ......

[North Patrol]

I wouldn't say "illegal", maybe what she does is legal; her post came across to me as she is not entirely proud of what she does unlike like your female friend is. Either way, she has made a career out of jobs she isn't proud of; maybe she even finds these jobs at time embarrassing. If that is the case and you are not proud (or you are embarrassed) of what you do, then it's time to change and find something that you don't mind the soccer mommy next door knowing about.

That was my point exactly. I was giving her the benefit of the doubt and believing when she said she didn't do anything illegal. But she obviously thinks it is wrong.

I think we all agree she needs to look into something more healthy for her.

Good Luck SallyATL. I honestly hope things work out for you.