Dating/married To A Female Cop?

[nyfinestgrl]

Ok, I'm a female cop....(just not verified yet). I always tell myself that I don't want to ever date another cop and plan on sticking by it. I must say that I did not know or acknowledge being on the job would change me socially as much and it is hard. Men are so intimidated, I was with someone while in the academy and it didn't work when I became a cop because of my hours, time, commitment and overall me working with majority men.They say that female cops are screwed up in the head, or too aggressive. You get judged right away as being a psycho by others before they even know you, Its crazy because since then I have not taken anyone seriously,lol. Why is it that female cops just end up marrying male cops? Is it because we get fed up with dating civilians and same ole'? Ive spoken to females in my command who are married to cops in dif commands from themselves and they tell me life is just easier ,lol. Females and Males , tell me your experiences and your insight on female cops.

[Piggy]

Cops have crappy hours, no regular family life as they work holidays, birthdays, and every other event. They see the absolute bottom of the barrel of society and the only one who understands is someone who has been there and knows what it means.

Cops usually end up marrying other cops or nurses. Nurses only because they see horrible crap too and they have the same hours.

I'd be interested to know how many people on board I just described. I found my wife in jail. (she was working there, and no, not as an inmate worker).

[Curt581]

I don't see female cops as being aggressive or screwed up in the head. Sure, some are... but not strictly because they are a cop. Nearly all that are nuts were screwed up in the first place.

One cop dating another cop has it's own ups and downs. There are definite pluses to having a partner that understands us. There are also drawbacks. If things don't work out, you've still got to see the person at work and trust your safety to them. Hell, you could get paired up as street partners after a bad break-up. The department isn't going to want to hear about conflicts in your personal life.

[Aussie George]

As usual long winded, but thought I would share my experience in this matter...

While waiting to join my first dept I met my wife.

We dated for a while and when I started at the Academy she moved to that state with me. She has no involvement with Police before me and knew very little about it.

Because she has been with me through it all, and because she is not involved in it, she is just perfect for me. Because I studied throughout the Academy with her (she would pop quiz me each weekend for the upcoming week's exams) she has a good understanding of my job, but is still detached from it enough for me to vent to.

We discussed early in our relationship how much she wanted to know about my job and she decided she wanted to know everything so that if she ever gets a call that I have been injured or worst then it won't be such a shock.

She is my rock and I would be lost without her.

When I had my first death she was there to listen to me rant and rave.

More recently it sank in a bit more to her that the job has some serious dangers. I had a firearms incident that nearly resulted in me shooting someone or getting shot. As close to a shooting as it gets, after a lengthy pursuit. This was about two years ago. i only found out last week that she emailed her sister and told her that it was a real reality check that what I did was dangerous. she never told me because she didn't want me to worry about her while I was out doing what I do.

Our relationship might be unique, but I reckon it is perfect. She is that check I need to make me realise that there is life outside the job, while still having enough of an appreciation of my work to be there for me as support when i need it.

I still remember the first time she referred to the caged vehicle as just "the cage" (police talk). I didn't realise until then that she took that much notice of what I said about work.

[RT302]

Cops have crappy hours, no regular family life as they work holidays, birthdays, and every other event. They see the absolute bottom of the barrel of society and the only one who understands is someone who has been there and knows what it means.

Cops usually end up marrying other cops or nurses. Nurses only because they see horrible crap too and they have the same hours.

I'd be interested to know how many people on board I just described. I found my wife in jail. (she was working there, and no, not as an inmate worker).

I married a firefighter/ EMT who is a cop's daughter. Total understanding on both sides. Plus, my father-in-law and I have some great conversations!

[shugs]

Chick here.
I don't want to compete with my spouse. I don't want my spouse telling me what I should or should not do at work, same as he would not want me commenting on his. Then there is the fact that female cops that date other cops get reputations. Fair or not fair, that's still the way it is. I don't crap where I eat and I don't date where I work. Period.
That's just me. Most other women (sworn and nonsworn) date "in the office". To each his own.