drinking

[Linzyp55]

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[Citicop]

I live with my boyfriend he drinks alot and i have told him that i dont want him to be around me when he is drunk, he often comes home at all hours of the night stumbling and trying to start fights can i lock the door and not let him in if hes been drinking even though he lives here? He says i cant keep him out of his own house? is this true?

Either he lives there and can come in when he wants or he doesn't live there at all.

YOU need to make up your mind. Either you stay with him (drinking and all) or you break up with him and avoid the drinking.

It is really simple, actually.

Citicop.

[Linzyp55]

gee thanks

[Citicop]

gee thanks

No problem. :rolleyes:

You came here for advice; sorry I didn't just tell you what you wanted to hear.

Citicop.

[Taxx]

"Simple" because we have no vested interest or feelings toward you or your boyfriend. But by staying in a destructive relationship (yes, getting hammered every night is destructive) you only enable him. You probably only do it for one reason, feelings, love, security, whatever you want to call it. At some point, he will come home an not pick a fight with you....he will fight with you, physically.

Citicop gives good advice and is being blunt about it because people don't often get the point when someone is being nice. Either move out of your (his and yours) house or stay and deal with it. You cannot deprive him of his residence. I would seek a break up or at the very least seperate living arrangements.

[mcsap]

Either he lives there and can come in when he wants or he doesn't live there at all.

YOU need to make up your mind. Either you stay with him (drinking and all) or you break up with him and avoid the drinking.

It is really simple, actually.

Citicop.

We aren't Dear Abby...we tell you how it really is. Either you like and want him for who he is , or you don't. Only you can make up your mind.

And if you " lock " him out , he can LEGALLY break in.

[txinvestigator1]

Can I lock my wife out when she has PMS and is grumpy?

[Legoate]

gee thanks

What answer were you looking for exactly? You are the one dating the drunken loser who comes home at all hours. If you don't like it, split up and get your own place. OR, you can continue the path that you are currently on. That's the great thing about being an adult, YOU get to make the choices and YOU get to live with the consequences.

[drummer-eman]

+1 on the above advice.
Especially the fact that we are not Dear Abby.

Even though this is the innerwebs and stuff we tend to tell people turthful answers to serious questions. Its been posted here 1000 times before and teh answers will always be the same.
Move out on him and find someone that doesn't act like a drunken loser or stay and eventually get assaulted badly by above aforementioned drunken loser.
I vote that you grow up,move out and find someone nice