HELP! My girlfriend's life is in danger...

[Suavo]

I don't know what to do or who to turn to right now. My ex GF is being harrassed and STALKED by another ex who lives in Mexico. He mysteriously finds out HER ADDRESS AND PHONE NUMBER WHEN SHE MOVED AWAY WHOM SHE TOLD NO ONE EXCEPT FOR ME. Amongst other things, this guy obtained a revealing picture of her that was only shared between us. Til' this day we don't know how he has obtained that picture as well...

I can't handle this anymore. First he re-joins RO-W.com, then he starts calling my new # THAT I GAVE OUT TO NOBODY AND THAT ISN'T LISTED ANYWHERE, now he makes a post in a topic right underneath me reminding me of his past two ex-girlfriends thhat he STALKED and saying he's coming to the US in a month. I still remember the tongue-in-cheek post he left on our answering machine, "I'm visiting the US soon and might be stopping by [at your place].

I don't know WTF to do anymore. I left RO-W.com to get away from him. "If I dissapear from his sight then I'll dissapear from his mind." But the e-mails wouldn't stop and then the CC# thing happened on my birthday. The CC# was when I first realized that since he's in Mexico there is ABSOLUTELY NO FUCKING THING I CAN DO TO STOP HIM. Then he created a topic on RO-W.com about me over the CC# and the attention made him crazy. That was the most harassment that me or my friends ever got from him and it didn't end until the topic was deleted.

Then I thought I would do the opposite. I'd come back and show him I wasn't going to dissapear and that he had no control over me and that he wasn't going to intimidate me. I wasn't going to stop chatting with friends or doing what he sees as my "normal online routine" by dissapearing in fear of him. At the time it worked... he left and his focus went from me to somebody else and with the exception of one mention of me on a website and two e-mails, my worrying was for nothing because I didn't hear a word out of him. Then a month or two later, I found out he had a picture of me and was sending it around to people. I felt violated and hurt and humiliated and it took me a long time to get over it. Later he posted it on the forums under a fake name, but I tried to pass it off and stayed firm and continued posting there. If I stayed firm he would see he wasn't intimidating me and couldn't phase me and had no affect on me and that I wasn't going to leave.

But then the calls started. I got the first on May 15th. A message on my dad's answering machine saying he was "wondering how I was doing" and that I need to "stop saying lies about him". I erased it. Later he joined the forums and started posting in topics with posts that seemed innocent, but were indirect jabs at me. He posted in a topic I made regarding Parkinson's Disease using the EXACT SAME PHRASE he used on me whenever he would ask me to talk about my relationship with my dad. One of the things he used to tell me was that the reason I took care of my dad was because he had molested me as a child and that I was repressing the memories. TOTALLY FUCKING SICK ****, and at one point I was starting to believe it. He posted in the topic KNOWING he would bring up that memory to me. On May 23rd we got a call at my mom's house from him, my sister deleted it. HE KNEW I had moved and now knew my new # and I assume address. Then he posted in another topic on e-drama on RO-W.com the next day saying "you get what you pay for", just like he said about my picture in the e-mails he sent me calling me a ****. On May 30th I got another call: "I'm visiting the US soon and might be stopping by [at your place]."

Its obvious to me now what he intends to do. He wants to come and find me just like his other two ex-girlfriends before me. He lies about them and says that one cheated on him or the other dissapeared -- the truth is they dumped him and TRIED GETTING AWAY FROM HIM. I know he was threatening me in that post saying he's going to come and try to find me like he did with his last ex.

I'm so scared and I have no idea on ewhat to do. Do I call the police? Then they will say nothing can be done just like the woman at AAA: "We don't have relations between Mexico." There's nothing I can do and he's going to come here to try and find me. I don't even dare to answer the phone now and I'm getting anxiety attacks in my chest whenever the phone rings. Someone please tell me what to do.
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please help...

[BryGuy]

File for a restraining order... If he shows up call 911 and let local officers handle him. It's a tough situation but if someone could solve this problem for you, they would have the end all solution to domestic violence.

Get that restraining order and be very aware of your surroundings. Improve your home security by adding quality locks, exterior lighting, possibly investing in a dog. And again, be aware of your surroundings...if going food shopping after dark feels as if it might be dangerous, listen to your gut.

Be safe and best of luck

[Suavo]

File for a restraining order... If he shows up call 911 and let local officers handle him. It's a tough situation but if someone could solve this problem for you, they would have the end all solution to domestic violence.

Get that restraining order and be very aware of your surroundings. Improve your home security by adding quality locks, exterior lighting, possibly investing in a dog. And again, be aware of your surroundings...if going food shopping after dark feels as if it might be dangerous, listen to your gut.

Be safe and best of luck

This isn't for me... it's for my friend...
I don't see how this restraining order can be possible? The phone messages were deleted and yeah...

[txinvestigator1]

Can you post the revealing pic here?

[ngcsubutterbar]

dirty dirty man tx ;)

[Scruit]

To her: Change your #. Get caller ID and an answering machine and screen all your calls, don't pick up the phone if you hear his voice. Try and get an answering machine that uses microcassettes and buy a bunch of spare tapes. If you hear a message from him then remove the tape, label with the date/time and store it for later. All of this information will be of use to the authorities, and/or to file a restraining order against him. Violation of the restraining order is rewarded with a cruiser ride.

Finally, If you know he is in the area then go stay with a friend. Heck, if you can afford it then you may want to talk with a PI about finding the guy when he comes to the US and keeping tabs on his movements.


Q to LEOs: If I have proof that someone violated a restraining order *last night* (ie security camera footage at my house) then can the person be arrested today for violating the RO yesterday, even though he is no longer at the scene?

[Coastie 585]

2 Words (if you count 911 as a word). Call 911.

[Oldbillplod]

2 Words (if you count 911 as a word). Call 911.

I'd say that was more like four words

[Suavo]

Can you post the revealing pic here?

This is not funny at all and grow up please.

[Oldbillplod]

This is not funny at all and grow up please.

Oh come on it was a little bit funny

[Toeknee112]

Dude! (in my best California surfer-guy voice) What the hell do you want us to say? If any of this is true you need more help than you'll find on a freakin' Internet board! Surely we can't be your last hope?

[Toeknee112]

Can you post the revealing pic here?

Oh crap! I just saw this one! I'm dying! BWAHAAHAAHAAHA!!! What balls he has!!! :D

[corporal716]

I don't know what state your in, but in California she could have a report taken for making annoying or threatening phone calls. If I remember correctly the section is 653m PC.(I have not used it for a long time) Tapes of the calls would help. With a time stamed video and tapes of calls, I would think there would be enough for a restraining order.

[nickg]

Dude! (in my best California surfer-guy voice) What the hell do you want us to say? If any of this is true you need more help than you'll find on a freakin' Internet board! Surely we can't be your last hope?

got that right!

"uhh, do i want to post this on a message board and MAYBE receive a reply in a day or so? or should i actually contact the police?" :rolleyes:

and i agree, post the damn pic, only without your hairy *** in the picture!!! :D

[HiTech]

It sounds like one of you has a trojan on your computer that sends the bad guy everythnig that is done on the computer.

If you want to Email me the revealing picture I would be happy to forensically examine it to try and determine how he got it.