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;) I just recently got married to a police officer. We have been together for 4 years and our relationship is wonderful (most of the time). I would like some advise on maybe how to stop being sooo.... jealous? He's real good-lookin and I'm not so shabby myself. It's just alot of women pick-up on him and it drives me crazy. I love him alot and want this marriage to work but it seems like I'm just pushing him away. Oh my gosh! Listen to me ramble on and feel sorry for myself. What do I think this is some psychiatry session. Ha,Ha!!!

Hey, you and my wife should talk. She gets jelous from time to time, by her own admission. You sound a lot like her. I'll tell her to post something for you, she's "Owner's Girl." My advice is that although I'm flattered sometimes that my wife gets a little jelous, sometimes it really bothers me because she doesn't just say something and leave it at that, rather, she'll go on and on about it (at times). Saying it once might be all that's needed. :)

Everyone is so great here responding to me so quickly. Yep tell your wife any advise would be appreciated.

Well Damn Jason! If you weren't such a hottie then there wouldnt be a problem......get fat, grow zits, punch out a few teeth...geeeesh.

Kara....now that yer pregnant....u can fatten him up too...hehehe

I am not sure what your situation is but I'm a PW (cop), and married to one and we work opposite shifts (same dept.) and totally different kind of work...all you can do is trust him and keep up communication. Get cell phones so you can keep in touch throughout the day, we always check in with each other even just to say hi. I find it helps that I have my own life, friends, etc. (this forum!) that keeps me busy and not think about missing him so much! I don't know if that helps...

Thanks for your replyGongshow! And yes that does help, I'm not in the same line of work as him but I have alot of contact with him and his other peers and I'm starting to realize that maybe a lot of why I think the way I do is because I listen to other people to much and what I really need to worry about is the communication between us. Thanks again!

Hello, this is my first time to post on this site. My boyfriend is a drug task force agent and my father is a retired city policeman. My uncle is a deputy for our local sheriffs department. I think that this is a wonderful site and I am very excited that I found it.

Welcome aboard, we are glad to have you here!

Do you look like Brittany Spears? In all ASPECTS? ;)

WHy do I get the feeling that spearslookalike is BSing us? I don't understand, a) if your a Spears look-alike, why would you be so jealous? and b) why get married to someone who you don't trust?


I don't mean to hurt your feeling if you are serious, my initail reaction was to believe that your pulling our chain.

Well, if she is serious. She should be thankful that hubby doesn't have my hubby's job, part of which entails him politely asking women to put their bikinis back on. Heehee...the old man is a looker, so much that he always gets chosen to speak on TV when something happens that's newsworthy. He was asked to do a LE training video too. I'm constantly getting ladies telling me how handsome he is but I can't recall a time that it bothered me. I am pretty darn secure in my marriage and with my choice of a husband. I don't call him at work....but he calls me....ALL THE TIME!!!! Eeeesh...go to work already. Hahaha.



For someone who is insecure.....choosing a name like "spearslookalike" takes balls and a bit of confidence.

I am in the same boat with Island Girl. My boyfriend's (fiance, soon I hope.) job requires him, at times, to deal with prostitutes and yes even go to strip clubs to get bad guys.It seems that drug dealer like those kind of places. But, the way I look at it, he chose to be with me and trust is what a relationship is based on. I mean he did marry you, give him some credit. (Of course we do have 2-way Nextel's and that helps alot. Anytime I just need to hear the sound of his voice to know that he is ok, I just beep him.
DeAnna

I have been marrie 13 years and hubbie has been an office for around 3 years,
We live in a small town, I get the hi (by first name) All the time.
It bugs me sometimes.
bUT JUST STOP FOR A FEW MINUETS AND THINK...
He picked you for a reason and if that reason hasn't changed Right?
Girls are attracted to cops. And that is that.
Even if it;s just to get out of a ticket...
My husband will come home sometime and say ( you should have seen this girl around 20 batting her lashes at me tonight when i pulled her over. You should have reallty seen her giving me the whole i can't believe it look. When I gave her a speeding ticket)> lol.
If you love him be real happy with the fact you have him. If you have a good looking man be proud not jelouis :).
There are so many badge bunnys but most smart cops know that.
And so do their wives.
Tarra