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I have been with my husband for almost 9 years. I worked in the LE field as a dispatcher, service officer, police assistant, etc. I've seen the best and worst. My husband has been a LEO for 13 years. Because I love every aspect of LE, we talk all the time about his job. Even the stuff some others don't want to hear, shootings, stabbings, suicides, accidents, etc. Never once have I ever been worried about his safety, thought about bad things happening, NEVER. It just never occurred to me. I always felt and knew that he would be safe. However, a few days ago, he told me that his team is going to toss this club. He did the same thing last week. But as soon as he told me about closing down this s**thole that caters to skells, my stomach tightened, and all of a sudden I got the worst feeling. NEVER has this happened before :confused: and I don't know why it's happenening now. I don't know if I should tell him about this feeling, or just let it go. But it's eating at me. Any advice?

Trust your husband. He has been putting the damn-damn on badguys for a long time and has almost assuredly got his head and butt wired together. Get worried if he doesn't wear his vest.

Also be assured he is not doing this by himself. I am sure he and his team recognise the threat level here and will plan and act accordingly.

Trust your husband. He has been putting the damn-damn on badguys for a long time and has almost assuredly got his head and butt wired together. Get worried if he doesn't wear his vest.

Also be assured he is not doing this by himself. I am sure he and his team recognise the threat level here and will plan and act accordingly.
Ditto...and if you two do talk about EVERYTHING, then why haven't you mentioned your concerns? I'm sure he will explain what's going to happen, and ease your worry.

My original question was more or less WHY all of a sudden I had a bad feeling. It was unnerving after never even thinking about it. I never mentioned my worry because I felt if he was there, knowing I was home thinking that way, it would "throw him off", ya know? I didn't want to cause him to be concerned about ME. I don't want to make him nuts just because I had misgivings about the detail. I do trust him, his work ethic, his record, he's a good cop. And I know he knows how to handle himself. He always wears the vest. And, they'll be going in "full gear". It was just odd, even thinking twice about it, that's all. They're going in @ 3/4 tomorrow morning, and I've felt an ease, so - maybe it was just something everyone goes through at some point. My brother is also a LEO and our parents don't want to hear ANYTHING about it. Freaks them out. I don't think they even watch the news from NYC anymore. Just the local yocals...lol. I'm proud of both of them. And I can't wait to hear the details when he comes home....

Kat, Mine is a little different but it is basically the same Bad Thought as you are having with your husband. My Husband is going into his 4th year as a LEO. And like you I'm a dispatcher and have never worried about him and we to discuss things that are going on at our two departments. One night my perception changed. It was weird because he wasn't even in danger.

He had brought a prisoner into the jail that was extra mouthy but not trying to resist in anyway. My husband raised his voice with the prisoner and it was the first time that I had ever seen him assert himself in any manner. I believe in my case it was because I was so use to the passive quiet husband that I see at home. But I don't worry that he will get hurt-at least not more than his one little incident. (He thought I wouldn't find out.)

Maybe it is because this is the first time he has discussed this with you-but you have to have faith in his team and his own knowledge. Nobody can ever say they will be ok and never get hurt- but this was a career choice that they make. (I know you know all that already :))

All is well that ends well. They got 22 bodies, everything from illegal gambling, drugs & guns to prostitution (some sort of "neighborhood club", yuck). Went off without a hitch. Of course...I didn't see him for two days....what else is new? He actually called me while processing with the details. Gotta love living vicariously (sp?) sometimes... :rolleyes:

See, told ya so. You didn't do anything my wife does. I just give her a kiss and tell her I got my head on straight and know what I am doing. Tell your husband good pop and come visit here if he ever gets a break from chasing badguys.

glad all turned out ok Kat. :)

Good deal.

My husband and I are both police officers (abt 23 yrs combined). With us being faithful believers and all, we pray & trust Him & leave it there.


There've been a couple of times, I felt "funny" about something he was doing, but all I know to do is to pray & leave it be.

Of course, I let him know, or would call him to hear his voice, or whatever (he'd do the same thing when he'd get "that feeling" about me, too). If time allowed, I'd tell him my "feeling" and sometimes that, in itself, would help.

I know you don't want to hear this but, I tell my wife everytime she get that feeling that:


"WHEN THE GOOD LORD WANTS ME HE WILL TAKE ME NO MATTER WHAT I AM DOING, I CAN BE ON THE COUCH WATCHING COPS OR OUT IN THE TOWN BEING ONE." We have both come to terms with the idea that one day I may not come home from work, It is sad but it is the cold hard facts. I tell my wife everyday that I love her and my world would not be complete without her, she is my lover, wife and best friend. :)

I know you don't want to hear this but, I tell my wife everytime she get that feeling that:


"WHEN THE GOOD LORD WANTS ME HE WILL TAKE ME NO MATTER WHAT I AM DOING, I CAN BE ON THE COUCH WATCHING COPS OR OUT IN THE TOWN BEING ONE." We have both come to terms with the idea that one day I may not come home from work, It is sad but it is the cold hard facts. I tell my wife everyday that I love her and my world would not be complete without her, she is my lover, wife and best friend. :)

Way to resurrect an old thread buddy. :D

I've said the same thing to my wife. I will always fight to survive. If I don't it's because God wants me and there was nothing I could do to change it. We both understand that and have a great deal of peace with it. I think our faith has really helped.