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Thanks for the forum! Got any questions, fire away! I will offer what little I have as of this point. I've only been an LEO spouse for 2 years. I will most likely have questions of my own too!
What bothers YOU most about your husbands/wife's schedule? How do you make time for family events, or to just be together?
Oh and you got that right! I am the BETTER HALF! LOL ;)
09-02-01, 07:35 AM
09-03-01, 12:30 AM
NOT ONLY AM I A POLICE OFFICER BUT MY WIFE IS ALSO....IT CAME ABOUT WHEN I WAS A TRAINING OFFICER...I CAME HOME WHINING ABOUT SOMETHING OR ANOTHER AND MY WIFE INSTEAD OF JUST LISTENING BEGAN TO GIVE ME HER INSIGHT. OF COURSE WHAT COULD SHE POSSIBLY KNOW, I CHALLENGED HER TO TAKE THE TESTS AND COME ONTO THIS JOB.....SHE DID. I WAS DOING SOME OF THE SCENARIOS AT THE ACADEMY AND I KNEW MANY OF THE INSTRUCTORS, SOME QUESTIONED MY SANITY FOR HER COMING ON.....SHE DID WELL FOR BEING "THE OLD BROAD".....THAT WAS ALMOST 15YRS AGO....I STILL REMEMBER HOW I FELT HER FIRST NIGHT ON THE STREET, WHEN SHE WALKED OUT THE DOOR....AND I STILL FEEL THAT WAY WHEN SHE LEAVES FOR WORK NOW....SHE IS A RESPECTED MEMBER OF 1 OF THE TACTICAL TEAMS (THAT WE'VE BEEN LOSING SO MANY TO HEAD SHOTS OVER THE LAST SEVERAL YEARS) IT'S KIND OF FUNNY THE WAY WE TALK ABOUT WORK.....GEE WE DON'T LET THEM DO THAT IN MY DISTRICT, KINDA MAKES HER CRAZY :-) BUT I STILL FEAR FOR HER SAFETY... THERE ARE SEVERAL GUYS AT WORK (AND GIRLS) WHO HAVE FAMILY ON THIS JOB AND IT AMAZES ME WHY OR HOW WE LET THEM COME ONTO THIS JOB....
TO ALL OF YOU POLICE FAMILY MEMBERS I SALUTE YOU...I THINK THE POLICE DEPARTMENTS ACROSS THIS COUNTRY SHOULD PAY THE FAMILIES FOR THE TRAUMA THAT YOU ENDURE EACH WORKING DAY....
STAY SAFE, DAN
01-25-07, 03:20 AM
03-09-07, 05:52 PM
I've been an officer for 5 plus years. My wife and I do what it takes to make things work. She is a stay at home mom (although I think she is home less than me). Our schedules work well together and we always no matter what the time of day or problem discuss what we need to. We don't personally believe in divorce and feel a bit protected by the "statistics". That's not to say it's not hard work at times and that every day we're both swallowing sunshine. We just do what we need to do and make the best of the situations we have. I do remember a piece of advice my mom was given when my dad worked on patrol that she passed on to my wife, "never leave your husband to go to work angry and never discuss anything distracting before he leaves for work. Let him focus on his job, it's only 8 hours."
08-29-07, 05:06 PM
.. I do remember a piece of advice my mom was given when my dad worked on patrol that she passed on to my wife, "never leave your husband to go to work angry and never discuss anything distracting before he leaves for work. Let him focus on his job, it's only 8 hours."
Now THAT is some sage advice. I personally have made that mistake on too numerous an occasion and can't appologize enough for it.
More treasured words of wisdom that i've received are "Never fight when you are angry or emotional, wait and talk it out with a cool head." This is your life partner. Your job may last another 10 or 15 years but your spouse is (should be) forever. Take the time to work it out and make your partner and yourself your priority. You'll be happy you did.
08-29-07, 07:03 PM
I nver leave for work without telling my wife I love her (and meaning it of course).
If there is anything I am involved with at work that might hit the news and might tie me up for hours and cause me to be late, I always find a minute or two to call and say, "Be home late, honey, Love you."
I also tell my wife everything I do at work. This might not work for some but we discussed it and she prefers to know everything so there are no surprises.