Police Officer Preparation & Law Enforcement Resource - Archive

I am new here. I have been married to my husband for 12 years and he has been a cop for about 6 of those years. Lately I have been feeling all those feelings that people warned me about, when he was first accepted into the College/Academy. Thought it might be nice to talk to others who have been through or are going through similar situations. Basically, right now he is never home and I am trying to go to school and raise three kids on my own. He is great when he is around, however, he doesn't make it home all that often (at least during the waking hours of the day). Some weeks are better than others, but it seems like over the past few months, it has been getting worse. He is on a 3 week course right now, and so things are pretty hectic around here. Any suggestions how to cope with single parenting and going to school full time?

emma dear I wish I knew what to say, I am just not in that position yet.. I am in a relationship were we are both police and when we find we are finding it hard to see each other one or the other takes time off. We take all our overtime, court and no lunches as time inside of cash, which means we always have "lieu time" in the bank and can take time off if our shifts can spare us. I would rather spend the time with him then have $$$. We also have very high cell phone bills! Of course I have no idea what your schedules are, or if that is possible. And of course, we have no kids yet!!! I hope you find a solution, if you need to rant and rave I am here for you so you can feel better but I am no expert!

Wow.
That is hard. Find a good friend to talk to when he isn't able to be there.
My husband and I work differen't shifts when I get home he has to go in. it can really get to you.
I'm not sure when the last time him I and the kids were all home at the same time for dinner.
Do you have any other officer wives for friends? They can sometimes be a wonderfull help.
Good luck and stick in there.
Tarra